Intimaciy and Ramadan.

As salamuwalaikum. No

Now this topic is sort of taboo. Well in my opinion I don’t think no one wants to talk about it or tries to avoid it. As you may know it’s Ramadan and we have to observe fasts for a month.

Many Muslims are unaware of what rules and regulations surround marriage and intimacy during Ramadan. This compilation deals with the most common issues surrounding marriage and intimacy in the month of fasting.

Intercourse during the day in Ramadan is haraam (impermissible) for men and women alike, who are obliged to fast during the day. Doing that is a sin for which expiation (kafaarah) must be offered. Therefore you Can have Intercoirse during the nights of the fasts and its not forbidden, and the time when it is permitted lasts until the onset of dawn. When dawn comes, intercourse becomes forbidden.

Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“It is made lawful for you to have sexual relations with your wives on the night of As-Sawm (the fasts). They are Libaas [i.e. body-cover, or screen, or Sakan (i.e. you enjoy the pleasure of living with them] for you and you are the same for them. Allah knows that you used to deceive yourselves, so He turned to you (accepted your repentance) and forgave you. So now have sexual relations with them and seek that which Allah has ordained for you (offspring), and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night), then complete your Sawm (fast) till the nightfall”  [al-Baqarah 2:187]

This verse clearly states that it is permissible to eat, drink and have intercourse during the nights of Ramadan until dawn.

After having intercourse it is obligatory to do ghusl (ritual bath) then pray Fajr.

Remember knowledge is key.

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Corona virus.

As salamuwalaikum.

I hope everyone is safe and well. Coronavirus had come as a shock. I remember we was talking in school, as the virus just spread in China, and then literally a few weeks later the whole world have been suffering.

Allahumduliah me and my family have not been affected. Such as no one had got the virus. We have been following the rules such as not going out and even if we did it was to get food. However coronavirus is really serious. It may not have affected us but it has affected many and it does break my heart. Also this virus makes me grateful for our NHS. Every single person who risks their lives to help people, to save people, hats off.!

Thank you to all the individuals who have been there for everyone suffering from the virus.

 

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Ramadan Kareem.

As salamuwalaikum!

I know it’s late but ramadan kareem. I have not been consistent with my blogs lately and that is because we went on a family trip to Bangladesh. That is another post you have to wait for unfortunately. Anyways yes Ramadan has been going ok apart from the hunger it has been ok. With that being said I have accomplished a lot during Ramadan and that is firstly my prayers Allahumduliah. This year I have mentally and physically prepared myself and I feel so much better now that my prayers are being read and being read on time.

Time management. Now with the coronavirus pandamic everywhere schools have been closed, therefore we have the kids at home and I must admit it’s been hard. But I managed to nail my time and organisation and made sure we do simple activities so that the kids won’t get bored and I won’t have to bang my head against the wall!!

Family comes first. This Ramadan I don’t know why I have been feeling a lot closer to my mum and husband. That’s maybe because we do more now as a family. That includes cooking together and praying together ❤️.

How is your Ramadan going so far?

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Life of being lockdown.

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As salamuwalaikum.

Is it me or is anyone else finding it difficult during lockdown. Don’t get me wrong I love the extra hours of sleep, lots of chocolate and chilling with my babies. However keeping them inside was the hardest. As the weather is becoming more charming now and the kids just need to run around. So that’s what we have been doing. Obviously everyone has their mask on and I always carry hand sanitizer with me.

How have you been spending your days during lockdown?.

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Christmas holidays

Oh how I loved these two weeks off. Firstly my babies truly meant what these holidays means to us. Comming from a Muslim family we don’t celebrate Christmas however, my babies did make Christmas cards to give to their friends. We also spent time with our neighbour exchanging gifts and spending time with Jesse the dog. We also had yummy food through out the holidays and it was my first time to make Christmas lunch and New Years dinner.

Apart from that we didn’t do much, as I just wanted the kids home to be honest because of the fact that it’s been ages since they have been home, and I feel that my kids have literally been everywhere! But this Christmas holidays I really loved having that homelyness and togetherness!

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New year new me?

Hi everyone and I just firstly want to say a huge welcome to 2020! I couldn’t be more happier that 2019 has left because that year was truly a painful one. I don’t want to go into detail but 2019 had made me open my years and welcomed 2020 with just positivity.

I don’t really keep New Years resolutions as I just keep it for a month and then forget about it. However this year I have made a few and I’m going to stick to it.! Mine are:

  • Keep up with my journal
  • Save £ every week
  • Cook more
  • Drink lots of water
  • Join the gym again
  • Pray more
  • Read the Quran
  • Put myself first
  • Spend more time with kids!

What are your New Years resolutions?

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My youngest is nappy free! Finally.

All children are different. Some walk first, talk first, do this, do that, but everyone is different. On that point I have two children Adiy and Manha! And I have potty trained them differently. Let’s begin with my son Adiy. I started potty training him when he was at school, due to he was starting pre school and even tho they said we will teach him I still wanted to do it myself. He only wore nappies at night time and during the day, there was some accidents but he then got used to the toilet.

However he stilled did a poo in a nappy. So whenever he wanted to do a poo, he would ask for nappy. Then when he turned 3 Adiy had a really bad tummy ache and we had to hospital. When the doctor checked him he said he is a bit constipated, and he asked does he poo in the toilet or nappy. I said nappy and then he said stop. So from that day he did poo in the toilet with lots of well donee and let’s do it again.

And then night time nappies. One summer night I forgot to put a nappy on and from that day I didn’t put a nappy on ever since. So whenever he did need a wee he would wake up and ask to go! Allahumduliah!

With Manha she was the opposite. She did a poo in the toilet and was nappy free in the day but just at night time. However just like Adiy I once forgot to put a nappy on and it’s been two weeks now and she has not had an accident, as I have told her when ever she feels she needs to see to wake me up!

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Ilford exchange play area

This is going to be a different post today. It’s because I’m really upset and hurt by what happened to me and my child today in the Ilford exchange play area, it’s on the ground floor opposite TK MAXX. Today in the afternoon we went so the kids could play, we always visit and never had any issues. Before I felt that my kids were safe there and I felt relaxed to know that I’m there and the kids can play and let lose some energy.

However today was any mother’s night mare and even writing this post, I feel like I want to cry. Today as my eldest child who’s only 5 was playing with his sister, as usual plying and running around, then he met his school friend and was playing with him. Then another boy whom may be a year or two older then them came up to them and with no reason what so ever that boy punched my son in the face. My son cried and it broke my heart as I had to witness my baby boy get punched for no reason.

He came to me crying and I asked the boy to come over, all the kids was watching and then I asked where his parents was and he showed me, and you know what his mum was doing to him,? Blowing him kisses! I was in disbelief. Like are you for real you just saw your son punch my son in the face instead of apologising, your egging your son on. All she did was say I didn’t see anything it’s not my business.

There was no security there for me to complain or even stop boys like him targeting little children. On Monday I will be getting in touch with Ilford exchange demanding that they have security there because even tho the play area is for little children I have noticed the days I go there are much older kids running around and pushing and shoving, with the little children and babies who are there it actually scares me to think of the accidents that may happen.!

If you do go all I can say is be careful and keep an eye on your child.

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Coughs and cold

It’s really hard when your kids are ill and all you want is your little ones to get better as soon as possible. So here are a few tips and tricks to get your little feeling much better!

Firstly check their temperature. As you want to know exactly what it is, for example is it just a cold or is it a fever! These can be purchased from any chemists or boots or argos.

Next is giving them a nice vapour rub on their chest and back. It will help with the congestion and give them a nice sleep as well. What I also do is giving them a little vapour rub on their feet and then put socks on.

Always consult your doctor before giving this to your little one. When ever Adiy is ill I give him 7.5ml of this 4 times a day. And even after giving him the first dose I can see a massive improvement in him.!

And lastly they may lose their appetite that’s normal but make sure they get plenty of fluids inside of them! Along with this for those coughs the best remedy is lemon and honey! It works wonders trust me.

Stay warm!

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Adiy’s trip to hainult farm

On Friday my son went to his first year 1 trip to hainult farm. I was very pleased to hear that I was chosen to go with him.

It was a short trip via a coach and can I just say how cold it was but they enjoyed themselves. The animals which we saw was goats, sheep, pony, horses and alpacas! We also got to know a lot of information about the animals such as how they sleep to what they eat.

And to be honest what I really enjoyed about the trip was the fact that I got to spend quality time with my baby. He was really happy that I had come in the trip and the way he was calling me to tell me about the animals was the cutest!

The farm is a free entry to everyone so if your near by then definitely go and check out the farm.

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