End of Reception and Nursery

Hello again it’s been a while and I’m so sorry. So much has been happening in our lives which to be honest I can not wait to write about. As you can see from the title my son Adiy and daughter Manha have finished reception and nursery and guess what Manha is starting reception full time and I’m super excited for her.

Nursery journey

Manha had a fantastic time at nursery and bonded so well with her teachers and fellow peers. So progressed well in her writing and reading and has become so confident in her self. So stepping into reception will be a change for her as it will be longer but she will have her brother at break and lunchtimes at the playground.

Reception journey

Adiy loves reception and mostly the independence he gets. From eating he’s own chosen lunch to playing with friends. He does things in which surprises me, he will never read at home but at school he tries his best and succeeds perfectly. Luckily he will continue to have his friends in your with a change in teacher. He loves his reception teacher mrs c and I hope that he gets a nice and supportive teacher in year 1.

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Eid 2019

Allahumduliah ramadan went well for us this year. you know i actually miss fasting. As i feel that fasting bought us as a family together. From having sehri together to having iftar together with the kids and it was so nice.

Anyway when Adiy had arrived from his trip. He loved it so much by the way, he got to see all the animals and he got to spend the day with his friends. So then at home we had a late lunch, mum had prepared everything and it was so yummy. Then for the first time we had decided to visit Goodmayes park where they held the Eid feast. They had a fun fair along with lots of bazaars and live entertainment.

Adiy and Manha are not scared of rides and they enjoyed themselves to the maximum. They even made friends with a little boy who had a downs syndrome. He wanted to play with the balls and my little ones helped him and his mum was so thrilled how they were behaving with him. To be honest he was such a cute little boy, who would not want to play.

So it was around about half 8 and the kids had their fun and we came home, and got ready for bed! That is what Eid is about, its about family and nothing else. i love spending time with family as most of my extended family are not in touch but i have my little family and that is all i need!

I hope you all had a blessed Eid and had lots of yummy food.

xoxo

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I have been away.

I’am back! firstly i have been away for around 6 months after constantly been blogging away. i have had some issues which i needed to sort out. I most importantly needed time to really think and prepare myself emotionally and mentally. Honestly a few months ago i have been at my lowest and i have never been there before. It had gotten so bad that i had to take depression tablets, as the doctors said it will help. If i’m being honest then i think the tablets did not help me. i had taken them for a month and it really did not help me, although it may have helped others but it didn’t help me.

So how did i over come this dark shadow over me? Social media have been out of my life. I am now after not using facebook for four months i’m actually doing more, as a person and a mum. Before it used to be constantly looking at pointless posts and then posting every moment of my life, for people to just gossip about. Seriously if you come from an Asian family and have family members on your facebook, even if you post a status for example ” Happy birthday to my dearest husband” the minute you post it you will have everyone gossiping about it. They will be saying things like “Oh she’s so besharam” and then in my case they will call my mum and have a go. You see i can’t post anything without people butting in and yes i have deleted the individuals but then they just complain and i can’t be asked no more of this typical star plus serial types of talk. Another reason is that even though i am happy in my relationship, my husband treats me like a queen, i think i can delete my account for him, because in these few months facebook have been a real headache for me, and im beginning to hate it.

I have also been looking after myself. I have lost weight and i have unbelievably lost weight and i have never done that before. I’m getting more compliments from everyone that i have lost weight. How i lost weight, i have stopped eating junk completely, no more burgers and chips or fizzy drinks. I also went gym for a month and i thought id hate it but honest i loved it. I have also when i don’t go to the gym i run in the park, if you are determined to do it and you put your mind body and soul to it you can achieve it. I also cut out bus trips, even it saves me a hell loads of money but it gives me the strength to walk or even power walk and yes i’m always walking. I do so many trips up and down from barking and Ilford lane that my legs kills when i hit bed. Also every week i am hoovering the house and cleaning the house moving every muscle and fat in my body. Before i used to be a potato and now i’m more then happy to do things around the house.

And lastly my kids and husband saved me. I realised that in life i need to be more positive because being positive brings happiness to the family. When i was at my lowest i was this close in losing my family, and i can not live without my family, regardless of them driving me mad or never give me a chance to have a good sleep in or even do a poo with some privacy, i realised with out this i am nothing. They are what makes me, me.! And this mum is back half way through the year, and yes i have done a lot of mistakes during these six months but i have learnt a lot from these mistakes and that is what mistakes makes you do. You realise what you have done wring and you learn from them.

I appreciate all the new followers on here and i just want to say i am back for good!

 

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What we did for Christmas!

I know many of my Muslim followers will have a go at me saying Muslims don’t celebrate Christmas as it’s not allowed. Firstly before I get into my blog let me explain, when we celebrate Eid or when it’s Ramadan there are many non Muslim whom wish us the very best. So I believe as a Muslim we should love our neighbours and return the love. I have non Muslim neighbours whom give us presents and cards and it’s a nice way to return the love. So we don’t celebrate Christmas but we spend the day as a family with lots of love and food.

So as we do we woke up in the morning and the kids got the presents. They were very excited to open it as they weren’t expecting presents. Mainly because I had a very good hiding place this year and managed to do the wrapping early. And I knew that the kids will be looking for clues but they couldn’t!!

And then of course we watched our Christmassy films and ate the most delicious food made by my mum. Christmas to us means love and family as my husband only has Christmas Day off so it’s nice to spend the day as a family!

What did you all do for Christmas?

xoxo

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Hand foot and mouth!

Every parents nightmare is when your little ones turn ill. During the Christmas holidays Adiy has caught hand foot and mouth from school. It’s like chicken pox but mainly on the foot hands and mouth. On the first day of holidays Adiy woke up with a temperature and little spots on the back of his foot. It was a Sunday so I rang 111 and they advised me to go to the local chemist and the gp the next day. When we went chemist they said it’s not chicken pox but hands foot and mouth. They gave us priton and camolie lotion to put on the affect areas. The next day Manha had caught it from Adiy as well. They recovered from it about a week and they were fine after that.

So if your child ends up with hands foot and mouth be warned it is contagious so it can spread amongst the little ones. Also when they get it it is advised not to give ibrophen but just paracetamol for the temperature and the pain. The lotion is the best way to keep them cool and not itch. And lastly keep them hydrated and give them ice lolly’s as it helps the ones in and around the mouth!

I was lucky that both of my little ones got it together as I have heard that normally if one gets it, the other one gets it weeks after. And I was lucky enough that they fully recovered just in time for school as school does advise parents to keep them in for a week or so!

Thanks for reading! xoxo

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Hello 2019

I’m really late in saying this but happy new year to you all. Now as every year we have a goal and ambition to lead us through the year. I have made realistic goals in order to be more positive and be more happy. Of course these can not be done just by saying it we have to work hard to gain a lot of happiness and success. For me the first and foremost is that I want to put myself first. To take care of my self. That means have a little breather, reading a book, eating and drinking well.

Another is an important one for me and that is to continue going to the gym. I want to find time and do what I’ve always wanted go to the gym and stick to it. I think I will be able to do this as my kids are both in school!

And last but not least to be a good mum, wife and daughter. I know I may have my ups and downs but I really want to be the best at being these. I know I am as I am loved by all!

Happy new year everyone!

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11 tips for bedtime routine (kids)

1. Get organized for bedtime right after dinner

If you have a partner or family member to help out, you can tag team to get everything ready. One person can clean up the supper dishes while the other gets everything ready for bed.

Having everything organized will help things feel less chaotic and prevent running around all over the house looking for that missing teddy or the last pair of clean underwear.

2. Let them finish what they’re doing

For us grownups, it’s so hard when we’re in the middle of something to stop and leave it unfinished to go do something else.

It works the same way for kids and their bedtime routine! If they’re in the middle of playing a game or building with blocks, be sure to give them enough advanced notice so they can wrap it up before getting ready for bed.

Example:

Instead of, “Okay, it’s time for bed! Come downstairs right now!” Try saying, “It’s time to wrap up for the day. In 20 minutes we’ll start our nighttime routine. What do you need to finish before you take your bath?”

Giving them enough time to wrap things up will help avoid a power struggle. It also helps them feel prepared for what comes next. Oftentimes my kids are so busy having fun that they don’t even realize it’s getting close to bedtime!

3. Validate their feelings

When rushing through bedtime routines it can be tempting to say, “I don’t care if you want to brush your teeth or not, you’re doing it anyway! You don’t want them to fall out, do you?!”

But one key to avoiding power struggles and helping your child feel heard is to validate their feelings and show them you understand.

Example:

“You feel frustrated when it’s time to put away your toys.”  “I know brushing your teeth isn’t your favorite thing to do.”

Related reading: How to Say “No” To Your Strong-Willed Child (Without using the word “no”!)

4. Do the hard stuff first

Where do you usually get the most pushback? Teeth brushing? If so, try putting that first on your bedtime to-do list.

You can say, “As soon as you brush your teeth, we’ll (take a bath/read a story). This will get the dreaded thing done and over with first so the rest of the night can be smooth sailing.

5. Offer a choice

If your child is resistant to doing the hard stuff first, you can offer a choice.

Example:

“Would you like to brush your teeth first or take a bath?”

This helps them feel more in control and less likely to initiate a power struggle.

6. Consider a routine vs. a schedule

What’s the difference between a routine and a schedule? A routine is something that you do consistently, without a specific time set in stone. For example, our family usually starts getting the kids ready for bed after homework is wrapped up. It never happens at the exact same time every day.

On the other hand, a schedule is something that you do at a specific time every day. For example, you might specify that at 6:30 pm every day, you will start your bedtime routine.

Personally, I find that a schedule can be too challenging for us to stick to. We have things that come up. Sometimes we go out or run errands in the evenings.

Some people really thrive on having a schedule, but if you don’t, that’s okay!! A routine might be a better option for you to allow for more flexibility. You may try experimenting with both to see what works better for your kiddos.

7. Provide visual cues

I’m not an artist whatsoever, but I drew this simple chart for my kids to follow. We put it in our kitchen and our kids can visually see what needs to be done before bed.

Of course, as I mentioned before, I do offer choices, so as long as everything gets checked off the list, I don’t mind if this happens out of order.

Many kids are visual learners, so having it right in front of them where they can see it really helps! You can make a simple chart like this one with cardstock and sticky notes. Kids can move their sticky note to “check off” each item on their bedtime to do list.

8. Make it fun

Usually, my babies love choosing their favourite pjs and their favourite book. So you can try and make them chose their favourite book remember make it fun!

9.  Set the timer

Sometimes getting a child in the bath is a challenge. Other times, getting a child OUT of the bath is a challenge. When I know we don’t have time for leisurely baths, I’ll use the timer on my phone and set a clear expectation.

Example:

“Okay, the timer is set for 15 minutes. When you hear the timer ring, you’ll know it’s time to get out and dry off.”

You can also get a visual timer like this one, which is great for kids!

10.  Give them something to look forward to

Whether it’s a devotional, a favorite book, or a special song, save the best for last.

You can gently remind them, “As soon as you’re in bed we can sing our special song!”  Or, “I’m looking forward to reading our mystery book tonight! I can’t wait to see what happens next!”

11.  Remember why it’s important to end the day on a positive note

Trust me, I know you’re exhausted at the end of the day. You’ve been pulled in every direction. You’re frazzled. But hang in there, mama!

Gently remind yourself how you want your child to feel at the end of the day. When they reflect on the last few hours, how do they remember the family dynamic? Stressful? Agitated? One of my goals each night is to make sure that when I tuck my kiddos into bed they can feel secure, safe, loved, and wanted.

Keeping this goal in mind helps me to dig deep to power through the end-of-day stress.

Let me know if any of these have worked for you! xoxo.

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